The Art of Growing Apart with Grace

Growing apart can be painful, but it can also open the door to new depths in your relationship.

Whoa!

That was the first thought that went through my mind as I finished reading the three-paragraph-long rant that this woman, in her frustration, had posted in a Facebook Group for female entrepreneurs. It was ironic. I’d just had this same conversation with a client, although in that case, her man had outgrown her.

I watched in shock as woman after woman hopped onto the thread telling this torn and confused wife that she should leave her husband.

“You don’t need him. It’s time to move on.”

“I just got divorced for the same reason and it was the best thing I ever did. Don’t waste your time with a loser.”

Sure. There were the occasional “See if you can work things out” quotes scattered here and there. But the overwhelming majority already had her in divorce court.

I gracefully forfeited my opinion. The story of a marriage is a constant accumulation of chapters. You can’t just come in at the end of the book and throw out your synopsis. However, the whole scenario does beg the question, “What exactly should you do when you know you’re growing apart?” Because you wont stay the same forever. Yet change inevitably leads to challenge, and that’s when things get tough.

One thing I do understand is when you work so hard on improving yourself, it’s difficult to be around someone who’s content with being mediocre. It’s like stepping off the elevator into a high-rise, while your honey is lost in the lobby.

So what is a guy or gal to do in this precarious situation? It’s definitely not searching for answers in…

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