the yoga teacher

The second guy I ever went on a date with off of Bumble was a nice yoga teacher, a little bit older than me, and lived at the neighboring beach town. He used to teach yoga a lot, per him, and seemed slightly jaded. He looked at me with I like to call “white man googly eyes,” like he just wanted to eat me right up, in a creepy way.

We did have a nice chat about yoga, meditation, relationships; obviously he had a vested interest in my divorce, so I feel the advice he was giving me was obviously in favor of moving on.

We walked to the beach, he drove me home, I forget if we kissed or not, maybe we did, because he did pop a mint on that beach walk. I felt good about the conversation and connection, but I didn’t feel that way about him. There wasn’t an attraction for me. I think we tried to hangout again, but I kept cancelling or rescheduling (sometimes I can be an avoidant type). I randomly ran into him a couple months later at a local vegetarian grocery store (he’s a vegetarian, I am not), still looked at me with those googly eyes.

We made plans at actually hung out on St. Patrick’s Day. He asked about my divorce, and at the time, I was feeling stuck. I’m sure he could tell and maybe knew that this wasn’t gonna be a thing (he was right).

I tell this story to my new girl friends at the time, and come to find out, he has tried to date their friend who is also a yoga teacher as well (her main hustle). Random. And also, he has a type. Haven’t heard from him or seen him since St. Patrick’s Day. Probably for the best.

Lessons learned: beware of the white man googly eyes — usually their older men, but younger dudes can have it too

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