Is Dating More Difficult When You Turn 30?

Nikki proposed this question in her recent article and it got me thinking.. https://medium.com/@nikkiwaterson/is-dating-more-difficult-once-you-turn-30-647f4f22e915

Dating has always been difficult

For me, dating has always been horrible. I have been a stable relationship kind of girl. In my single years, in my late teens, I hated dating. I was always the friend, the awkward one, never attracting attention (or that I noticed). I made it this way. I wasn’t interested in going out, glamming up and flashing my eye lids to get free drinks and attention. Funnily enough my identical twin sister did this amazingly always scoring free drunks and spunky men . This was a skill I never mastered, nor wanted to master.

I don’t want to think about dating

I will thank Nikki for this one. I can’t fathom the thought of dating. I have recently spilt from my husband, a relationship of nearly 12 years. Dating is the last thing on my mind. I was in a loving, caring relationship, or so I thought. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be dating in my 30’s. I’m 34 to be exact.

The thought repulses me. People suck. Yes, that is cynical, but after 13 years in the Police, people suck.

How do you even date these days?

God I wouldn’t even know where to begin. I haven’t changed much since my teen years and I don’t do the flirting thing, I never have and never will. My relationships have grown out of friendships. Do I go on a dating app? What app? Which ones are for dating or which ones are for sex? Which ones are for singles, homosexuals, sexual exploration, swinging. How can I tell?! The whole meeting a stranger scenario sounds scary to me. Again, people suck, so how do I know I can trust the other person on the other side of the messages? I can’t.

I am in a regional town so going nightclubbing and bar hopping to meet people is not happening. I wouldn’t do that anyway. I am in bed my 7.30 most nights as I live with multiple chronic illnesses.

My answer

Dating has always been difficult and is not something I want to be doing in my 30, 40's or 50’s. I will stay a single divorcee with 3 dogs to keep company.

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